For Peers
Be the classmate who makes a difference
You don’t need special training to change someone’s whole school day — just kindness, patience, and a few simple moves. Here’s how to be the friend who helps a classmate feel safe.
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Six ways to be a great friend
Every one of these lowers anxiety and helps a classmate feel like they belong.
Invite them in
Invite them to join activities without requiring them to speak. A seat saved or a “want to join?” means a lot.
Give them time to respond
Silence is okay. Ask, then wait patiently — a few extra seconds can make answering feel possible.
Accept other ways to communicate
Writing, gestures, pointing, or nodding all count. Any way they choose to connect is a real answer.
Be a consistent, kind buddy
Sit with them at lunch, pair up for group work, or walk together during transitions. Showing up matters.
Include, don’t spotlight
Welcome them into the group without making them the center of attention or the focus of every question.
Protect them
Stand up if others tease or pressure them. A quiet “they’re good, let’s go” keeps things safe.
Please avoid
Things that make it harder
These are common — and usually well-meant — but they raise anxiety and make speaking feel even harder.
- Saying “Just talk.”
- Asking “Why are you so quiet?”
- Answering for them without permission.
- Staring, teasing, gossiping, or turning their silence into a joke.
- Forcing them to perform, read aloud, or speak in front of others.
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Kind, low-pressure things you can say
Not sure what to say? Keep these friendly phrases in your back pocket. Each one gives a classmate an easy, no-pressure way to respond.
“Want to work together?”
“You can write your idea if you want.”
“Take your time.”
“Would you rather point or write it down?”
“Want to sit with us?”
Being a good friend is already helping.
You might not hear a “thank you” out loud — and that’s okay. Your patience and kindness are felt, even in the quiet.
Placeholder: Additional peer tips will be reviewed by a school counselor or SM specialist before publishing.
Think you’d know what to do?
Step into real classroom moments and see how your choices help a classmate feel safe and included.